Long story short, all was working per my question below as installed by a contractor(I'm 99% sure) - until it came loose from the ceiling and i quickly undid all of the wiring (lesson learned - quick picture first).
I've read the other posts for this same issue and what I can't tell is if it's possible to have 1) Top switch for light on/off AND turn light on/off from remote 2) Bottom switch for fan on/off AND turn off, control speed from remote
Currently I got this far... Dual switch on wall: Top turns light on/off, If top switch is on, I can NOT use remote to turn off light (This is where I need help) Bottom turns fan on/off, I CAN control fan speed and turn off AND i noticed I can also control the light - but only if top switch is off and bottom is on.
Any help is appreciated.